I’m pretty sure my kids have always thought of me as a bit of a nag. Where my youngest is concerned, I’m almost certain such is the case. See, one of my personal missions is to assist others to create lives that they’re IN LOVE with living. Part of that is learning to recognize and claim the gifts that Spirit/the Universe/God/dess gave us upon birth.
All three of my kids are gifted, but my youngest – as a dancer, artist, and musician – is gifted in the Arts.
Where does the nagging come in?
Lots of ways. After all, I am a mom, but I urge her – and often – to utilize those gifts.
Here is one of her recent projects.
It’s a “murderous bunny thing”. Just something that she knocked out rather quickly. At least in the same day, and just a sample of what she can do. She’s drawn so much more that I haven’t taken pictures of yet.
In addition, she’s started learning animation.
At first, she used her own artwork, so she could learn that process. But, learned how much she didn’t know and is now using an app where she is learning the animating process with stock art. That way, she will understand the technical aspects better, so she can use her own artwork in the future.
I learned this as I was encouraging her to keep going because she is so talented. It would cause my heart to ache if she gave up on it.
In fact, I shared an anecdote with her…
This past Christmas her grandparents gave her a sleeping bag. It’s a cute thing, covered in rainbows, and suitable for sleepovers. She uses it as a comforter on her bed. Despite the fact that she already has a comforter.
I asked her, “how do you think Grandma and Grandpa would feel if you’d left it rolled up and just tossed it into your closet? Especially when they thought you would get such pleasure from using it?”
“They’d probably be pretty sad,” she replied.
“They would be. But, God gives each of us gifts when we’re born here on Earth. They’re things that we are good at, that – often – come easily to us, which bring us or others pleasure. How might God feel when we don’t use them to the best of our abilities? How would you feel, if you gave someone you love very much a gift, believing that they would get a lot of pleasure out of it, and they didn’t use it?”
She thought it would make her sad and that God probably feels the same way when we don’t use our gifts.
Now, there are many debates with regard to the nature of “God”. This is not one of those, and I certainly wasn’t intending to “guilt” my daughter into using her gifts. Though, I’m certain there are some that might try to argue it.
My point with her and here is simply to illustrate that the things that come naturally to us, no matter what it is, are gifts from Spirit. They are “given” to us for the purpose bringing us and – in some cases – others pleasure. When we deny them or don’t use them… Well, if anything, our life as well as the lives of those who are “meant” to experience the fruits of our gifts are less vivid.
You want to know a secret?
Once I was done sharing my “message” with my daughter, I realized I needed to hear it just as much as she did.
It’s difficult sometimes, though, to fully accept that the talents or abilities we possess could possibly be “gifts from heaven”, isn’t it?
So often our “Inner Critic” will start “poisoning the well” of our mind. But, it’s old programming, either from our childhood environment or communities or, even, society. But, the truth of the matter is these gifts have been given to us to be used and with the intention of bringing joy to us as well as others. By not doing so, we’re denying others the experience that those gifts have to offer.
And with that thought in mind, I leave you with these words from Marianne Williamson, from her book, A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Until next time, my dear friend, may you be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous, and may you utilize your Divine gifts to the very best of your ability.