Emotions: They Just Are (Day 3 of the Gentle Visibility Blogfest)
Posted On May 31, 2018
Hello there, dear friend!
This post is a little late being published. It’s been a really busy day here. I did want to pop in, though. (I haven’t forgotten about you! How could I? Yes! You’re that special to me and in general. *grins*)
How has the energy felt for you lately?
The past couple of days I’ve noticed I’ve been feeling run down, drained, and more than just a little emotional, and there’s seemingly no real explanation for it. That was until I spoke with others in our spiritual community here today.
They’re feeling it as well. (Good to know I’m in such good company, at least.)
How about you?
The full moon was a couple of days ago… That could very well be it!
Why, though, do we feel we need to explain it? So we can “fix” it?
I know that tends to be my SOP – my standard operating procedure. “Let’s figure out what’s at the heart of this feeling so we can get rid of it.”
Yesterday, my new friend Latrelle Ross from latrelleross.com shared her thoughts about emotions and words. You may have already watched it as I shared it on my Facebook Page yesterday. But, in the course of her discussion, she spoke about an episode of Star Trek the Next Generation (yes, I’m a trekkie too!) she watched in which Counselor Troy told Data that “emotions are neither good nor bad”.
They just are.
The ones that we label as “negative”, often they are attempting to get our attention. “Hey! There’s something here that you need to take a closer look at.” Sometimes, though, I believe we spend a good deal of time trying to explain them away when in many cases they simply need to be experienced before dissipating on their own.
Admittedly, there’s just SO much in it for me to yet process!
In it, though, the woman, who is the main focus of the documentary, spoke of a moment when she was feeling anger. Instead of making up stories to support her anger, instead of placing blame, she did as Arjuna Ardagh (I believe I am crediting it correctly) suggested. She gave expression to the anger by yelling and simply moving the energy out of her body. Then, she could go on in a more happy, blissful place.
Maybe, our need to label an emotion as “good” or “bad” as well as the need to explain it is part of the process of “attaching stories to it”.
As I poked around online, looking for a quote or something to add to this post, I happened to come across a post from spiritualityandpractice.com which compliments this line of thinking perfectly.
In the post, the author spoke about the work of J. Ruth Gendler, author of The Book of Qualities. Essentially, what she did was personified seventy-six emotions and abstract human qualities much in the way Disney personified five emotions in the movie Inside Out. But, she then spoke to a junior high school English class about her approach to emotions and asked them to choose a quality and briefly personify it in writing.
You can read more about her experience in the post on spiritualityandpractice.com as well as an exercise you can do in your journal or to address and work with specific emotions.
Ah, the journal! Such a wonderful tool!
What do you think? I would love for you to share your thoughts and perspective with regard to emotions and working with them in the comments below.